The waiting game for new orders is only slightly more anxiety filled than when you get them. This new game is one I like to call starting over – again. Never fear though, it’s not all bad. How you approach your upcoming move is a matter of perspective. You could hide under the blankets to avoid facing the movers who will break your stuff and the dreaded goodbyes to friends. But then, you’d miss out on an incredible opportunity to add a beautiful new chapter to your story! Fill your cup with strong coffee, put your favorite music on, and dance. You’ve got this.
Step 1: Find your place
When you are a seasoned military spouse, you’ve become an expert at researching new areas online. The computer is your friend – here you can find websites and Facebook groups dedicated to your new duty station area. Spend your time weighing the pros and cons for on base housing, renting on the economy, or buying your own home. Each option comes with different challenges – find the one that is right for you and your family.
Step 2: New everything
This is where the anxiety comes in, at least for me. When you move it means setting up new medical, dental, schools for your kids, finding employment and the dreaded search to find a new hair person. All of this really stinks, there’s no doubt about it, but it can be done. Lean on your new community to help guide you in making these decisions; their feedback is invaluable. Reach out to your ombudsman’s or key spouses, they are an amazing resource to assist in transitioning to your new duty station. Here are some extra tips:
Step 4: It’s PCS time again
If you are moving CONUS, or contiguous United States moves – you can decide to move yourself (also known as a DITY move), in which the military will reimburse you through a calculation that may be more of a headache than it’s worth. The other option is to allow the military to organize and set it up. This tends to be the preferred method, but, comes with its own headaches. My tips for a successful military PCS:
It’s incredibly hard and it’s going to stink, but you are going to be okay, I promise! The friendships that you build with other MilSpouses are priceless. You will see each other again; this military world is small! While goodbye is hard, it makes those reunions that much sweeter. Thanks to the incredible invention of social media and video chats, you can still have coffee and cocktails together, plus, guess what? You will have brand new MilSpouse besties where you are going. Happy PCS’ing – your new chapter awaits!
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